hi all, i've not read the forums for awhile as i've been trying to move on with my life but i'm back and posting for the first time feeling like i cant get a grip.
so i'm wondering for those of you that have seen a therapist and say that it truly helps, what can be accomplished?
i'm just really skeptical, but starting to feel desperate.
Bonnie Zieman's book Shunned is full of helpful strategies for coping with our situation. https://www.amazon.com/Shunned-Survival-Guide-Bonnie-Zieman/dp/1983942375
Recovery is not quick! It takes years to really get comfortable with your new life. Just keeps getting better and better.
i had gotten a phone call from a brother who was really upset.
he said there was a resolution passed that everyone is in agreement to the selling of the elmira hall.
the strange thing is at the congregation picnic an elder told him that a few years ago the deed to the hall was signed over to the org.
I've wondered too where the funds are going. Offshore? In whose name?
Imagining going back into a Kingdom Hall is truly the stuff of nightmares. Have never gone back after being in 50 years and out 10.
looking back at it, it was shameful to treat human beings worse than a way we would treat a dog!
ignore people, treat them as dead...,it's so awful.
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It never felt right. I finally had to obey my well-trained conscience after agreeing to shun my mother for almost 8 years. She died less than a year later. Probably my biggest regret in my life.
i have two honest questions for everyone here.
i understand that most here want retribution from the courts against watchtower for child abuse allegations.
but let us take away the instances where someone was accused of child abuse and then later put back into a position of authority, such as an elder or an ms. let us just take the cases where a regular publisher or even an appointed person, with no previous accusation of child abuse has come up against that person.
Truthseeker It's embarassing to think about this for us too. Mortified that we trusted these men.
Still can't believe the control we allowed them to have. I still apologize to my daughter for foolishly not standing up and telling them to get out of our home.
i have two honest questions for everyone here.
i understand that most here want retribution from the courts against watchtower for child abuse allegations.
but let us take away the instances where someone was accused of child abuse and then later put back into a position of authority, such as an elder or an ms. let us just take the cases where a regular publisher or even an appointed person, with no previous accusation of child abuse has come up against that person.
OrphanCrow- YES! What kind of men go along with this arrangement? It's gross, isn't it. I believe the kindest and truly caring elders don't last in the elder body. And often the most intelligent leave.
the title above is a question asked by my wife seemingly hundreds of times in 1993, the year our only child was disfellowshipped.
the entire story exceeds the reasonable limits of this forum and i have to suppress the urge to write it.
instead, i will give little snippets, what a certain elder said at this or that point, how jehovah's organization treated us, how we handled our gradual awakening to, yes, "the truth about the truth.
Spot on DesirousOfChange. Describes us perfectly.
share your thoughts ?
Well put FrreandClear. Certainly if God wanted to be worshipped in a certain way, he could make it clear to humans. Mankind seems to have an urge to worship a diety. Suffering continues worldwide and that challenges any belief in a benevolent god. We left 8 years ago and feel as though we have put in enough worship time for a lifetime since we were heavily involved in the whole theocratic schedule.
No desire to join a church so far. The only real benefit of a congreation is a sense of community.
hi people,.
i want as much data as possible on the effect of the internet on the time captured by the cult.. please answer the three following questions about yourself or about someone you know (for example, if your parents or grandparents were jw's and left).
1) were you raised as a jw, or did you convert?.
36 years. Internet helped recovery.
Spouse
38 years.
straight after the commission ended today within minutes, the phone rang.
it was one of the people who are working on it.
firstly she established if i was alright and did i want to talk.. i said i was too tired and unhappy that geoffrey jackson managed to do some preaching....she said they were aware of that.
